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Dianne P. Dunfey

Posted By Direct Cremation of the Seacoast On January 5, 2017 @ 5:45 pm In | 55 Comments

Rye-Dianne Paula Dunfey scaled one last fence and set forth from this world on New Year’s Day, dying in Rye, NH, from complications following surgery.

Born July 10, 1959, in Lowell, MA, to the late Richard and Audrey (Albert) Dunfey, Dianne grew up in Hampton and Manchester, NH, and was a longtime resident of Rye.  From an early age Dianne exhibited a noteworthy propensity for forcefully standing up against what she considered to be societal injustice, beginning around age five when she was served peas with her dinner.  Persevering through such travails, Dianne sparkled throughout a spirited childhood featuring a series of sun-splashed summer stays as a camper, and later a counselor, at Camp Huckins in Center Ossipee, NH.

Following her graduation from Manchester High School Central Dianne headed to Boston University, where she majored in American history and was taught and mentored by renowned professor, social activist, and author Howard Zinn.  An extended period of sociopolitical engagement began at BU as Dianne fought for worker’s rights and displayed a natural ability to organize and advocate.  She later became deeply involved in a series of movements and actions in the interests of peace, social justice, and a non-nuclear future.

Dianne’s commitment to the causes in which she so passionately believed was relentless, resolute, selfless, and fearless.  She participated in numerous actions involving non-violent civil disobedience, one of which resulted in physical injury to Dianne, and several of which familiarized her with various jail protocols.  She never wavered; never backed down; never backed up; never gave up.

Along the way Dianne was a leader and spokesperson for the Clamshell Alliance, the grassroots anti-nuclear organization which repeatedly mobilized in opposition to the construction and operation of the Seabrook Nuclear Power Plant.  Despite her fierce opposition to the project she was measured, poised, eloquent, and formidable in her role.

Even as Dianne’s priorities shifted to raising her two children and becoming a dedicated (and beloved) social studies teacher for 28 years at Seabrook Middle School, her periodic participation in activism in the pursuit of social justice continued until medical misfortune sidelined her from such efforts for the last few years of her life.

Dianne was an avid reader and a talented piano player.  She loved music – especially Bob Dylan, Paul Simon, and the Beatles.  She loved walking on the beach and swimming in the ocean.  She loved her dog, Wally.

Dianne was a warm and loving daughter, sister, aunt, and friend. She lived her life consistent with her strong feminist values. She had a terrific sense of humor and delighted in the wittiness of others.

Above all, Dianne’s love for and devotion to her children were something to behold, and something to be held in their hearts forever.

Sweet Dianne, you were the best in all of us, so we are empty and aching and we all know why.  But you would surely protest this, and we have work to do – your work.  So soon enough your inspiration and your passion will occupy that emptiness; and the transcendent, healing power of your love will shut down the ache; and we can all go out to seek the America you sought.

Dianne is survived by her son, James Dunfey-Ehrenberg, and daughter, Laura Dunfey-Ehrenberg, both of Rye; her husband, Kurt Ehrenberg of Rye; her sister, Linda Dunfey and her other half Mr. Gale Hennessy of Bedford; her two brothers, Dick Dunfey and Keith Dunfey, both of Manchester; her niece, Catherine Gonzalez-Dunfey and her husband Lewis Gonzalez, and their children Lewis, Audrey, and Thomas of Manchester.

A celebration of Dianne’s life and legacy will be held in the spring.  Consider if you wish a donation in Dianne’s memory to NH Peace Action Fund, 4 Park St. Suite 210, Concord NH 03301 nhpeaceaction.org/donate.


Condolences for the family of “Dianne P. Dunfey”

Condolence from Reta M MacGregor on January 9th, 2017 10:21 pm

Kurt and Family my thoughts are with you…. she sounds like a power of example… Reta

Condolence from Roy Morrison on January 9th, 2017 10:26 pm

Dianne was a woman of courage , passion, commitment, and loving dedication. She was a fearless fighter for her community, for the environment, for justice, and for her students. Dianne was a woman who was not afraid to stand up and confront injustice and evil. At the same time she was a quiet and hardworking mother, teacher, and good friend. She was willing to confront great power and great evil using the tools of nonviolence, of teaching, of personal example. Dianne was willing to face great personal risks to do the right thing. I knew Dianne as friend, as activist, as Seacoast resident. Her passing is a great sorrow and loss. But Dianne’s life was a testament to her enduring courage and commitment. Dianne taught not just by words in the classroom, but by deeds and action. A strong, and brave woman and great friend.

Condolence from Eleanor Dunfey on January 13th, 2017 7:21 pm

Roy, I never realized you knew Dianne, but I am not surprised given your commitment to the environment. Your tribute is so moving. Thank you. Eleanor Dunfey

Condolence from David Holt on January 10th, 2017 3:20 am

So sorry for your loss

Condolence from Jack McEnany on January 10th, 2017 5:43 am

Dianne’s legacy endures in the profound influence she had on so many of us. She was a remarkable person. I have all of you in my thoughts.

Condolence from Nadine Hack & Jerry Dunfey on January 10th, 2017 6:58 am

Our niece Dianne was simply one of the most extraordinary human beings we’ve ever known! Her spirit was magnificent and her commitment to justice was unparalleled, only mirrored by her boundless love for her family. We will miss her terribly and she will live in our hearts forever. We realize there are no words to address the depth of sorrow that Kurt, James, Laura, Keith, Linda, Dick, Katie, Lewis, Audrey & the entire family face after her death. We send each of you healing love, xo – Nadine & Jerry

Condolence from Carol Fine on January 10th, 2017 8:48 am

I am so very very sad to read this. I send you much love. Carol

Condolence from Corri eaton on January 10th, 2017 7:32 am

I had her as a teacher at seabrook school and she was one of the most outspoken women I learned a lot from her and it’s very sad to see her passing may she gain her golden wings and the family find peace and comfort she will be missed

Condolence from Ross George on January 10th, 2017 7:56 am

I am so very sorry for your loss. She was a great teacher.

Condolence from Roberta Prost on January 10th, 2017 8:07 am

Ms. Dunfey was my Social Studies teacher at Seabrook Elementary and she taught more than the curriculum. She taught me about standing up for my beliefs and I still hold tightly to that lesson. May your memories of her help you through this difficult time

Condolence from Kim Comtois/Walters on January 10th, 2017 8:10 am

So very sad. She was my one and only favorite teacher. I disliked Social Studies until I met her, she made it very interesting. I found myself eager to get to her class every day to see what fun thing we were going to learn. I still talk to my kids about her as well as think of her while watching Schindlers list…the movie she fought so hard to get us to go see for a field trip. Rest In Peace.

Condolence from Debbie Samalis on January 10th, 2017 8:32 am

I remember on of my favorite summers with Diane and her boyfriend at the time Jack. Karen Dunphey, Keith, Billy Murphy and the gang back them. Celebrating the death of john Lennon at Livingston field. Swimming at the ledge and losing our dear friend billy. I’m speechless. Haven’t seen Diane since those days. Rest in peace and say hello to our friend. May your commitment to the cause live on! You rocked it lady.

Condolence from Dolores O’Connor on January 10th, 2017 8:47 am

Deepest sympathy Kurt and family. Rest in peace Dianne.

Condolence from Gina McGinness on January 10th, 2017 8:50 am

So very sorry for your loss. ♡

Condolence from Paul McEachern on January 10th, 2017 10:11 am

Dianne was a beacon of inspiration to all social activists.Her struggle is over Her example lives on.

Condolence from Haley D’Amico on January 10th, 2017 10:22 am

ms Dunfey, you were such an amazing woman. The stories you told and your personality will always be held deeply in my heart. It was a wonderful experience having you as a teacher, and an honor to be apart of the last class you taught. May you rest peacefully.

Condolence from Brandon Fichera on January 10th, 2017 10:28 am

As one of her students in 2010, it really breaks my heart that this has happened. She was an amazing teacher, and spread positivity in the class. I remember during the holiday season she would always wear this sweater to class that had a snowman on it, and she named it “Steve”. It was just those little moments that made the class overall special. It was an honor being a student for her, all my condolences go to your family. ♥

Condolence from Madison Kiman on January 10th, 2017 10:39 am

As one of the students of her last class, she will be remembered greatly. She was so very passionate about what she believed in and I think that is a great thing to look up to. The stories she told and how she is as a person will live on forever. She honestly changed my outlook on social studies and made those textbooks actually readable. She never ever gave up and that is so special. Thanks to her I grew fond of Bob Dylan and silent movies.
My heart is with her and her family. And to whoever wrote this did a beautiful job.

Condolence from Stephanie Preston on January 10th, 2017 11:23 am

My favorite all time teacher <3 may she rest easy

Condolence from Kristen (Burwell) Kisner on January 10th, 2017 11:39 am

The world will miss the bright shining light that she was. She was one of the best teachers I’ve ever had. She taught us all so much more then social studies and I will forever be greatful for that. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Condolence from Maura Keefe on January 10th, 2017 11:59 am

I had not seen my cousin Dianne in a number of years and was so saddened to learn of her passing. I always admired her passion for social justice – a passion that never wavered throughout her life. My thoughts are with her loving family during this difficult time.

Condolence from Cathy Wolff on January 10th, 2017 12:26 pm

The best die young and we must go on as if we are two. A phrase I hate because of its knee-jerk and exclusive use for military applies, I think, deeply and honestly to Dianne, “Thank you, Dianne, for your service.”

Condolence from JANET kEEFE Cataldo on January 10th, 2017 2:38 pm

Dear Dunfey Family, Your Mom and Dad will be welcoming Dianne to their heavenly family, proud of how she lived her life, and happy that her struggle is ended. Please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Janet

Condolence from Liana J. Shifflett on January 10th, 2017 3:00 pm

I was a student of Mrs. Dunfey. She was always happy and ready to teach. I too remember her fighting for the movie Shindler’s List and always think of her when i see it. So sad, prayers for the family and may she rest in piece.

Condolence from Mary Lou McGinley on January 10th, 2017 3:07 pm

So sorry to hear of Dianne’s passing. I worked as Secretary at the Seabrook School and always found her to be a very caring person. May you all be comforted with the special memories she has given you.

Condolence from Christina on January 10th, 2017 3:27 pm

I am so very sorry for ur loss she was the best teacher I had in seabrook elamentry school and she was my homeroom teacher. Ms dunfey u taught me so much to stand up for myself u had a lot of patience with me and I don’t know how u did it but u never gave up on me no matter what and I will member all of r talks every time I had a problem I could go to you and thank u so much for everything I’m so happy I met u.. Known I will never forgot u.

Condolence from Roy and Karen Dunfey on January 10th, 2017 3:59 pm

With deepest sympathy for your loss.

Condolence from Ruthe daSilva on January 10th, 2017 4:49 pm

Sorry for your loss. May Dianne rest in peace.
Thoughts and prayers for her husband and family.

Condolence from Sheila T. Scott on January 10th, 2017 5:01 pm

So very sorry for your loss! Deepest condolences to the family. May she rest in peace!

Condolence from Kimberly Souther on January 10th, 2017 5:19 pm

I had Miss Dunfey as a teacher many years ago at Seabrook Elementry . She was one of my favorites . I was very sorry to hear of her passing .

Condolence from Tricia Valcich on January 10th, 2017 6:06 pm

Dianne was not only my colleague at SMS but she was one of my dearest friends. She was so kind, caring and funny! She was also one of the best teachers I had the privilege of working with everyday for 28 years! She was a strong, passionate person and a firm believer in her convictions. Heaven has gained an exceptional angel. To her family, Kurt, James and Laura – my sincere condolences for the loss of your beloved mother and partner in life. May your memories of Dianne comfort you in times of sadness. Dianne – until we meet again. – may God hold you in the palm of his hand. Rest in peace my friend?

Condolence from Betsey Ross on January 10th, 2017 6:20 pm

I had the privilege of teaching at SES/SMS with Dianne for many years and it is with great sadness to hear of her passing. Our conversations usually centered around our love of Ireland and our Irish Heritage. In her memory, I offer up an old Celtic Prayer that describes Dianne’s life beautifully:

I lay my head to rest,
and in doing so,
lay at your feet –
the faces I have seen,
the voices I have heard,
the words I have spoken,
the hands I have shaken,
the service I have given,
the joys I have shared,
the sorrows revealed,
I lay them at your feet,
and in doing so
lay my head to rest.

Slán abhaile, Dianne

Condolence from Maryanne E Dunfey on January 10th, 2017 6:34 pm

My heart is broken by Dianne’s early passing.
Love to all of your family.

Condolence from Paula Thompson Pietrowski on January 10th, 2017 6:51 pm

Dianne was the most passionate and caring teacher I have ever known. She was always a great example to me and the world will be a darker place without her light.

Condolence from Gary Madden on January 10th, 2017 6:55 pm

My condolences to the family with your loss.

Condolence from Sarah Kaufman on January 10th, 2017 7:02 pm

I have such fond memories of seventh grade social studies with Mrs. Dunfey. I remember to this day the way she taught us about WWII and the dangers of propaganda. She was a warm, kind, and funny woman and one of my favorite teachers from SMS. Rest in peace Mrs. Dunfey.

Condolence from Lucinda Parsons (Grondin) on January 10th, 2017 7:27 pm

I’m so sorry for your loss and the loss of such a great person and teacher for Seabrook.
My heart just aches. Loss for words… I truly liked her. She was always so kind to me. Memories include many, but mostly how she always tried to make me laugh during staff meetings to make it look like I was off task! I shared those times with many of my colleagues over the past few years when staff meetings were too much to bare. One of the greatest things about Dianne was the way she made everyone around her feel valued. If you were blessed enough to know her, you know what I mean. In God’s hands, but not ever forgotten….
Hugs to you and all that loved her.

Condolence from Jenn Murphy on January 10th, 2017 7:51 pm

Ms. Dunfey was one of my most favorite teachers at SES. She showed me what a strong, brave, courageous women was and was an excellent role model. She taught her students like no other teacher that I’ve had. The heavens are shining a little bit brighter as it has gained a huge star! I hope her family finds some comfort in knowing how loved she was. <3

Condolence from Ellie Gordon on January 10th, 2017 8:56 pm

I am so sorry. I have childhood memories of Dianne-Webster School, Christmas Eves, Camp Huckins. I am saddened to hear of her passing. Sending love and my thoughts and prayers.

Condolence from Crystal on January 10th, 2017 10:34 pm

I had ms.Dunfey for a teacher, she always had a smile on her face and she was truly a wonderful teacher! This is a sad loss and I give my condolences to her family and friends! Rip ms. Dunfey you will be missed by so many!!

Condolence from Crystal on January 10th, 2017 10:41 pm

I also remember her doing the “Dunfey” dance in class! She will be missed❤️️ May she rip?

Condolence from Lydia Patterson on January 11th, 2017 6:13 am

Awe so sad to hear this Mrs Dunfey was one of my favorite teachers I will never forget you Mrs dunfey may you Rest In Peace ….. praying for comfort for your family ??????

Condolence from Jeanine Burns on January 11th, 2017 7:14 am

The world has lost a great warrior for social justice and her legacy will live on .She inspired so many.Prayers of Peace for her family and friends .Thank you Dianne for your example and sewing the seeds of truth in your time on earth.

Condolence from Jody Hutchinson Skelton on January 11th, 2017 8:34 am

I remember Dianne as a enthusiastic counselor at Camp Huckins. She was always smiling and found the best in all of us. She was upbeat and a positive role model for all. The Camp Huckins family sends their condolences and prayers to her family.

Condolence from Maryanne Dunfey on January 11th, 2017 8:24 pm

Thank you Jody,
She loved her days at Huckins.
Maryanne

Condolence from Ted Bosen on January 11th, 2017 9:58 am

Dear Kurt, James, and family:

I never met Dianne, but what I have learned since her passing has made me feel a tremendous loss knowing the two of you and how much she must have helped shape the people you are today, as well as the greater community. She was clearly a very, very important person in our great struggle for a better planet and brighter future. I am grateful for having you as friends and for learning about Dianne’s amazing life. I am sure you will carry on her legacy. May her memory be eternal.

Condolence from Elizabeth Rioux on January 11th, 2017 11:16 am

I often think about how lucky I was to have had such a wonderful teacher who encouraged deep thinking. I would not have majored in political science without her enthusiasm for talking history and politics. To Ms. Dunfey’s family, thank you very much for allowing her to share her time, talent, and energy with her students over the years. We are better for having known her.

Condolence from Carole York on January 11th, 2017 1:27 pm

Dianne and I worked together at Seabrook School, and I remember her devotion and creativity as a middle school teacher as well as passion about fairness and justice for the U.S.

Condolence from Cecelia on January 11th, 2017 5:15 pm

Miss Dunfey was my teacher in 6th grade. She taught social studies and was not afraid to show us documentaries that others may have shied from. She was standing beside the television when the challenger exploded. She came to our small town and showed us that it was ok to be different, to choose not to conform. As long as this was your choice. She harmed no one and held strong to her beliefs. We are all better for having had her in our lives and I am so sorry for your loss. I always look for the truth and form my own opinions and Miss Dunfey was a large part of that.

Condolence from Lisa Riese on January 11th, 2017 7:36 pm

I feel incredibly lucky to have known Dianne. She was always so genuinely kind, always asking about my kids with sincere interest. As a young teacher she made me feel valued and important. Early in my career I expressed my concern about what I felt was inappropriate/prejudice attire. She somehow heard of this and how I was made to feel that I was wrong. She immediately wrote a letter expressing how it was shameful that a young, new teacher was being treated as though how they felt was not valued. She truly would not stand for any kind of injustice.
May you Rest In Peace, and thank you!

Condolence from Kristie Conrad on January 12th, 2017 6:29 pm

Dianne was one of the bravest women that I have known in my time on this planet. She was formidable in her belief of justice and service to others. She stood up to power in many ways and her intelligence and articulation of her knowledge and values was brilliant. Her work with the Clamshell Alliance and at Seabrook Elementary speak volumes of her dedication. Dianne’s legacy lives through her children, James and Laura and in all of the students – many of whom have posted incredibly thoughtful memories that they will carry throughout time.

Condolence from Helen Pelletier on January 12th, 2017 10:13 pm

Thank you for this beautiful telling of Diane’s remarkable life. I was lucky enough to spend a bunch of those sun-splashed summers with her at Huckins. She was something! So much her own fabulous self when the rest of us were still trying to figure out who we were. I am so sad to know she has left this earth, but very glad to know how deeply loved and admired she was all through her life.

Condolence from Tim Grady on January 13th, 2017 9:52 pm

My deepest Sympathy to the Dunfey Family. May God give you all strength and peace at this difficult time. Rest In Peace Diane and may God Bless You.

Condolence from Lesley Warren on October 13th, 2019 2:28 am

Very belated condolences to the Dunfey family. I attended summer camp at Huckins with Dianne more years ago than I care to remember. We were very good friends even though she grew up in New Hampshire, and I, in Maine. Years later, I supported The Clamshell Alliance that Dianne worked so diligently and passionately on, also believing Seabrook to have been ill-advised especially in a scenic coastal town, and a case study in mismanagement. I recall her brave and tireless activism when I was on “the dark side” trying to help Dean Viles on the PSNH bankruptcy, which was a major case of first impression back then. Rest in peace, Dianne, I always knew you were special.

Condolence from Jacqueline Nicole Taylor on February 6th, 2024 6:43 am

Mrs. Dunfey, I will never forget you. One of the best teachers I’ve ever had…..you taught us all so much…..you taught us how to think and not what to think…..you taught us to always stand up for what’s right and what we believe in, no matter what. No other teacher has made such an impact in my life. Because of you, I also always take a stand and never remain silent. You gave so much to this world. Such a elevated soul…….the world misses you dearly….especially during the times we are living in now.

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